Please, don't judge us!

As a girl/lady or woman, we usually been judge about our physical appearance. This situation actually make us frustrated when we can't keep up to our partner expectations. Can you imagine how great it is when your partner can still say you look pretty even though you are just in sweat pants! Honestly, we just want to be appreciated for who we are not just on what we look like from the outside because there are so many about us that are interesting and beautiful beside physical appearance. I can say that even the prettiest woman in the world don't want to be judge just on that kind of traits at all.

I'm jealous with man, they don't have to care so much about their appearance. People don't judge them too much like they judge women. Women wont judge man if they hair hairy armpits, but if women have hairy armpits, just be ware girl somebody gonna comment about that. I'm not encouraging women or man to grow their armpit hair, but well guys you know what i meant. The fact that we need to take care about our appearance all the time is just overrated and tiring sometime.

The reality is our figure will never stay the same, and to think about our body one day will sag is just so frightening. However every people in this world will face the ugly truth of ageing, it is just a normal process undergone by all living creature in this world. When this time come the only things that matter is not how you look, obviously you are old with many wrinkles, the one that matter is whats inside you, that make you beautiful. So, you need to love your women with what ever she had inside and out.

As a women, we also doesn't like to disappoint our partner. However, if physical appearance is on top of your list, it surely will leads to dissatisfaction for both couple. This is because it is impossible to look the best all time. Also, women is a very sensitive creature, when they are bombarded with judgement from the other side of sexes, they will build up insecurities inside her. This will make her losing the self esteem, hates how she looks like and not satisfy about her looks all the time. This issue is a serious problem and might develop into much serious psychological problems like anorexia, bulimia, body dysmorphic disorder and many other type of mental illness. So, guys out there, what ever slight prettiness that you notice in your partner, praise her, it will make her feel good and happy.

I'm talking about this is not because i want to force you to fall in love with somebody that you think not attractive, but  i'm encouraging you to stop judging a women in just by her physical appearance, take your time to know her inside and out. You can see personality of a women in many sides of a spectrum not only from one side. You might find it shock when you see girl that have many tattoo and piercing on her body can be a person that working in a homeless shelter every weeks,  who knows.

5 years back or 5 years from now

People always ask that what you think that will happen to you in the next 5 years. However, today i just want to flash back, about what i thought whats going happen to me now, 5 years back. Ok now i'm 23, so.. 5 years back i was 18 years old. 5 years back in 2007 i was in studying matriculation, it was stress like hell, oh i can't forget how tough matriculation is, but i done pretty well there :). Back to the main point here, what i was thinking about my future in coming 5 years back then, i was thinking about furthering my study in university and want to become a doctor. Thats what i think back then and its become my core motivation to get my degree. Yah! now i'm taking my degree but not in medicine, i'm taking biology.. so i slightly change my path, because my qualification is not enough to take medicine. So the point here, what you want to be in the next 5 years is determine by what you are thinking and doing now. So what ever you want to be in the next 5 years, set the goal now and also work for it. :)

Be Content, Be You!

I always ask my self " why some people try to put other people down by minimizing and criticizing other people's flaws?". It just bad and some peoples can not handle the critiques very well and soon affecting their mind and feeling down all the time. The answer for that question is, that kind of peoples are so insecure about them selves. They did that because they have issues about their body image and they project their anger own other peoples. Also they see something great and jealous about it. So if you in this situations, be strong don't let people bring you down, tell them " What ever", "So what?", "I like my self, i don't care about what you think about me", "What?", or you can say to them "Wow?" say it with confidence and i'm sure they will back off. 

However the worst thing is when you criticize yourself about each flaws that you have on your body like "I'm too short", "i hate my big stomach", "my skin aren't perfect". Don't be too harsh on yourself! When you see yourself in the mirror don't focus too much on your flaws, focus on things that you love, "wow, i love my hair, its healthy and shiny", "i like my nose, its cute". Keep on giving positive comments to yourself. Don't wait other people to compliment you, you need to compliment yourself first before anyone does. Love yourself, no matter how you look, there are no perfect person in this world, and no one in this world have right to define who you are. Stay strong and build your own identity, you are unique, every inch of you are unique. 

Before when i was a teenager, i always had problem with my body image, i hated looking my self in the mirror, i always saw flaws on my body. When people said i look cute, pretty, i just didn't believe it because its not what i believe and see on my self. I starved for perfections and i hated many things about my self. When i saw my self in the mirror i said, "i hate my lip's shape", "i hate my skin", "i hate being too skinny", "i hate my hair"... it just on and on. Its became worst when other people gave bad comments about my physique, it just made me sad and hate my imperfections even more. Due to this negative mind set, i became very uncomfortable with my body and had very-low self esteem. Back then, i always hide my face, i can't look other people in the eyes, and i also had troubled in making new friends. Also, i let other people defined me and worried about what other people may judge about my physique.

Now, i'm more confident about my self, not as before. I love my self, i'm grateful on what god have given to me. I recognize my imperfections as something that unique about me. For me, no matter what people say or think about you, whats really matter is what you think about yourself. You can't control what other people say and think about you, but you can control yours. So, keep think positive things about your self, that will act as an amour when other people try to strike you with negative comments about your body.

Loving your self will boost your confidence level and of course your life will be much better in any aspect, such as relationship with your partner, friend and family, and also work. If you want people to love you, you need to love yourself first. When you love your self, people will feel your positive energy and they soon will be attracted to you. Final reminder for my self and anyone who read this blog, just be grateful and content, and be yourself! :-D

How to be Slim

Few days back i came across a video in youtube about how to be slim, if i'm not  mistaken it was aired in BBC channel before. Facts that they provided is fascinating, and they also prove it by months of research.

While watching the videos (it separated into 6 parts), i jotted down some interesting points, there are 6 important points that i want to share with you guys;

First, protein will keep us full for longer.

Second, calcium intake helps to eliminate fats from our body.

Third, be ware about your portion.

Forth, have a food diary to remind you about the food that you eat.

Fifth, reduce snacking on unhealthy food in between meals, instead snack on crunchy fruits and vegetables.

Sixth, Water can make you full for longer only if it enrich with food. For example, soup.

I may forget about other important points so i embedded the video below so that you can see for yourself what the video is all about. Hope you enjoy it ;).








Don't be too obsess to be slim, the most important things is to be healthy and happy :-).

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